The Kia Marathon

My fabulous writing chapter, RWA Online, is sponsoring our yearly writing challenge named after a former member, Kia Cochrane. Many thanks to DanaRae Pomeroy (we miss you DR, wish you’d come back) for writing the following article on our beloved Kia.

Dear Kia,

RWA Online hopes we honor your memory well.

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Copyright 2002
DanaRae Pomeroy

The Kia Marathon

Kia was a special lady to many of the people in the Romance Section and, later, the RWA Forum. She was published in contemporary category romance as Kia Cochran. Just prior to her death, she’d turned her hand to attempting mystery romances.

I was one of the few fortunate enough to meet Kia in person. In fact, we ‘camped’ in her back yard in our RV for three weeks, the spring before she died. Kia is responsible (long story) for our move to Greenville SC, ‘tho I’d never met her in person until we pulled into their driveway.

Several of us came to know Kia well through doing the Artist Way course via email and forming a Sacred Circle. When I had the opportunity to spend three weeks literally in her backyard, it was as if we were old friends. In addition to her writing, Kia was a voracious reader. She made weekly trips to the local library and and supported the Friends of the Library in their sales fundraising. She was also a crafter and viewed her knitting and her quilting as she did her writing … a puzzle to be put together, a story to be told, an image to be created.

Kia was always encouraging and her primary mantra to the rest of us was to write, write the story, tell the story, do not stop, do not pull out the red pencil, do not listen to the internal critic, until the story is on paper or disk. Then, go back and plug the holes, flesh the characters, add the description, whatever. The important thing was to write and tell the story, then worry about the “warts.”

Kia survived breast cancer and was headed toward her fifth year “clear” exam when bone cancer set in. Most folks never knew she was a cancer survivor, nor that she was as ill as she was the last several months. She refused to go to the hospital until the very end, wanting to stay at home with her husband, surrounded by the plants she loved and the dogs who were her “children.” She passed away in August of 2000, but she left a memory of her caring and a reminder that the most important thing a writer can do is tell a story that will touch the readers’ hearts.

The Kia Marathon

My fabulous writing chapter, RWA Online, is sponsoring our yearly writing challenge named after a former member, Kia Cochrane. Many thanks to DanaRae Pomeroy (we miss you DR, wish you’d come back) for writing the following article on our beloved Kia.

Dear Kia,

RWA Online hopes we honor your memory well.

———————–
Copyright 2002
DanaRae Pomeroy

The Kia Marathon

Kia was a special lady to many of the people in the Romance Section and, later, the RWA Forum. She was published in contemporary category romance as Kia Cochran. Just prior to her death, she’d turned her hand to attempting mystery romances.

I was one of the few fortunate enough to meet Kia in person. In fact, we ‘camped’ in her back yard in our RV for three weeks, the spring before she died. Kia is responsible (long story) for our move to Greenville SC, ‘tho I’d never met her in person until we pulled into their driveway.

Several of us came to know Kia well through doing the Artist Way course via email and forming a Sacred Circle. When I had the opportunity to spend three weeks literally in her backyard, it was as if we were old friends. In addition to her writing, Kia was a voracious reader. She made weekly trips to the local library and and supported the Friends of the Library in their sales fundraising. She was also a crafter and viewed her knitting and her quilting as she did her writing … a puzzle to be put together, a story to be told, an image to be created.

Kia was always encouraging and her primary mantra to the rest of us was to write, write the story, tell the story, do not stop, do not pull out the red pencil, do not listen to the internal critic, until the story is on paper or disk. Then, go back and plug the holes, flesh the characters, add the description, whatever. The important thing was to write and tell the story, then worry about the “warts.”

Kia survived breast cancer and was headed toward her fifth year “clear” exam when bone cancer set in. Most folks never knew she was a cancer survivor, nor that she was as ill as she was the last several months. She refused to go to the hospital until the very end, wanting to stay at home with her husband, surrounded by the plants she loved and the dogs who were her “children.” She passed away in August of 2000, but she left a memory of her caring and a reminder that the most important thing a writer can do is tell a story that will touch the readers’ hearts.

My world…

My own little world.

I’m sick of living in everyone else’s world. Dammit! It’s my turn.

You all are invited to live in my world. In this world, there is no dream too big, no shoe too small, no blue eyeshadow, and no bad advice.

In my world, there’s no homework or bad grades.

If your ass is the size of Texas (she says, looking behind her) you’re not only welcomed, but revered.

Ah yes. I love my world. Who’s with me?
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Okay, on to another topic.

Yesterday, I told you all about my dilemma with my first born.

Hubby and I briefly discussed punishments/rewards/solutions yesterday before I headed home to deal with the issue. I told him that since Ian currently had an F in Math that I felt he shouldn’t plan in his last soccer game (which is next week) and he shouldn’t play Flag Football until that grade is back at a C or higher.

He said, “Okay.”

Now, I interpreted “Okay” to mean, “I agree.”

Appparently, “Okay” meant, “I don’t want to argue about it.”

Hmmmm.

So now, he’s asking me if I’m not sending Ian a mixed message because I’ve always said it isn’t fair to punish the team by not allowing a child to play if he’s grounded. And I still stand by that–I don’t take team sports away as punishment, normally.

BUT! HE HAS AN F!

In Jr. High and High School, he wouldn’t be allowed to play with that grade…so who’s sending the mixed message?

Before I forget–Thank you to my dear friend and former college roommate, PamPam (Pamela Kahler), for sending me all that great information and parenting tips.

My world…

My own little world.

I’m sick of living in everyone else’s world. Dammit! It’s my turn.

You all are invited to live in my world. In this world, there is no dream too big, no shoe too small, no blue eyeshadow, and no bad advice.

In my world, there’s no homework or bad grades.

If your ass is the size of Texas (she says, looking behind her) you’re not only welcomed, but revered.

Ah yes. I love my world. Who’s with me?
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Okay, on to another topic.

Yesterday, I told you all about my dilemma with my first born.

Hubby and I briefly discussed punishments/rewards/solutions yesterday before I headed home to deal with the issue. I told him that since Ian currently had an F in Math that I felt he shouldn’t plan in his last soccer game (which is next week) and he shouldn’t play Flag Football until that grade is back at a C or higher.

He said, “Okay.”

Now, I interpreted “Okay” to mean, “I agree.”

Appparently, “Okay” meant, “I don’t want to argue about it.”

Hmmmm.

So now, he’s asking me if I’m not sending Ian a mixed message because I’ve always said it isn’t fair to punish the team by not allowing a child to play if he’s grounded. And I still stand by that–I don’t take team sports away as punishment, normally.

BUT! HE HAS AN F!

In Jr. High and High School, he wouldn’t be allowed to play with that grade…so who’s sending the mixed message?

Before I forget–Thank you to my dear friend and former college roommate, PamPam (Pamela Kahler), for sending me all that great information and parenting tips.

Survivor


It really only gets good right before the tribes merge…but tonight was pretty enlightening.

Poor Brianna. (pictured) She just wasn’t woman enough for the competition. What a dumbass. How many times during the immunity challenge did she have to be told to GO TO THE BALL! OMG. Honestly. She deserved to get shitcanned.

Her puny little excuse, “I didn’t understand what she meant when she said ‘pick’. I don’t know basketball.”

You don’t know basketball? Then why did you pick (snort) the Seattle Sonics as your favorite sports team? Last time I checked, they were a BASKETBALL TEAM.

DUMBASS.

Lydia impressed me again, tonight. Last week, it was her work ethic that had me pulling for her–this week it was her gumption. No, she wasn’t the best player in the immunity challenge; not even close. BUT, she gave it her all. And THAT’s all I care about.

Jamie, Jamie, Jamie. Just take your shirt off and shut up.

I like this cast of characters. I still love Stephenie–though her whining about always being a loser is grating on my nerves some…but I’m still pulling for her. She kicks ass.

I really like the Yaxha team. I’m pulling for them…I hope they can survive these last two tribal councils.

Survivor


It really only gets good right before the tribes merge…but tonight was pretty enlightening.

Poor Brianna. (pictured) She just wasn’t woman enough for the competition. What a dumbass. How many times during the immunity challenge did she have to be told to GO TO THE BALL! OMG. Honestly. She deserved to get shitcanned.

Her puny little excuse, “I didn’t understand what she meant when she said ‘pick’. I don’t know basketball.”

You don’t know basketball? Then why did you pick (snort) the Seattle Sonics as your favorite sports team? Last time I checked, they were a BASKETBALL TEAM.

DUMBASS.

Lydia impressed me again, tonight. Last week, it was her work ethic that had me pulling for her–this week it was her gumption. No, she wasn’t the best player in the immunity challenge; not even close. BUT, she gave it her all. And THAT’s all I care about.

Jamie, Jamie, Jamie. Just take your shirt off and shut up.

I like this cast of characters. I still love Stephenie–though her whining about always being a loser is grating on my nerves some…but I’m still pulling for her. She kicks ass.

I really like the Yaxha team. I’m pulling for them…I hope they can survive these last two tribal councils.

A mother’s plight

I have a child who isn’t motivated by ANYTHING. He’s having trouble in school…not turning in homework, doing poorly on tests, doodling instead of taking notes, etc. (he’s a lot like me, actually…but school came much easier to me than it does to him)

I need help.

Tonight, if I don’t beat him into submission, I’m going to have to figure out how to snap him to attention.

We’ve offered to pay him– $10 for every A on his report card; $5 for Bs and nothing for Cs…anything lower, and he owes us money. He seemed excited about this and we thought–YAY! WE FOUND HIS MOTIVATION. Since we made this deal, he’s missed 3 homework assignments. ARGH!

Should I promise him a trip to wherever he wants to go if he straightens up? Should I beat the snot outta him? Should I just ignore it and hope it’ll go away?

The teacher is asking for advice–unfortunately, I have none to give. Sigh.