Guest Blog: Friend and fab author Kait Nolan

Definition: insanity: performing the same action over and over again, expecting different results. –Albert Einstein

Fact: Excellence at a complex task requires a critical, minimum level of practice – researchers have settled on that minimum level as being 10,000 hours (just google “10,000 hours excellence” and you’ll get oodles of hits)

Conclusion: All writers are therefore insane.

I can’t remember how it came up, but my husband and I were discussing this the other day, and he said, “So practicing makes us all insane?” It was said in context of his attempts to master a particular guitar part for some song he was learning, but the idea stuck with me because, really, this is the same definition of perseverance. You don’t get better at something without doing it repetitively. A lot of the 10,000 hours research has dealt with music—but I don’t think anybody would argue that writing definitely qualifies as a complex task.

It seems to vary day by day for me whether I consider myself to be persevering or totally insane. Some days or weeks (or longer) go by when nothing seems to work right, where I can’t find the inspiration to write, such that the words wither up and die somewhere between my brain and the page. Entire years have gone by without my finishing a book, where it feels like I’ve accomplished nothing of value (even though I have because I’ve usually learned something new about craft). These are the times when I feel like this dream of mine to write for a living is total insanity. Certainly it’s not what one could call a practical career. There’s a lot of hard work and uncertainty involved. To those who choose not to take risks, to follow their hearts, maybe it is insanity.

But then there are the days, weeks, and years when things jump forward. When I finish things. When they turn out to be good. When sitting down day after day, butt in chair, hands on keyboard, finally seems to pay off. When something that made no sense whatsoever before finally clicks, and the rest of a story spills from my fingers with the ease of pouring a glass of wine that leaves me heady and a little drunk with excitement and joy. These are the days and moments I focus on and remember. These are why I persevere in the face of crazy odds. Because above all, I love what I do. I love telling stories and sharing them with people. I love that leapfrog jump of my soul from insane to perseverance.

It’s that leapfrogging cycle that keeps writers and other creative types coming back to their craft, continuing to practice, to try and improve. Because there’s just something so powerful about seeing the payoff that makes all the other moments of insanity totally worth it.

So how about you? Do you consider yourself insane?

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For those who are interested, my debut paranormal romance novella, Forsaken By Shadow, is available at Scribd, Smashwords, Amazon, B&N, and the iBookstore. It is the first in the Mirus series.

Banished from their world with his memory wiped, Cade Shepherd doesn’t remember his life as Gage Dempsey, nor the woman he nearly died for. But when Embry Hollister’s father is kidnapped by military scientists, the only one she can turn to is the love from her past. Will Gage remember the Shadow Walker skills he learned from her father? If they survive, will Embry be able to walk away again?


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so over it

Yup. I’m over this week. SO BLOODY OVER IT.

It really has been a rather craptastic week and just when I thought there was a silver lining? I came home to this in my driveway:


Let me tell you about the asshat who was driving too fast, missed the curve and took out my gas meter…then drove off. Yeah. Without stopping. But the awesome dudes at Centerpoint moved my meter out of the line of fire and had me up and running by 5:00. Thanks, guys. Y’all are rock stars!

Dear assmunch in the GREEN SUV in Bryant, AR,

Thanks for not stopping. I hope your GREEN SUV is permanently damaged.

Not-so-much-love,
Mel

The almost good news is, the cops think they know who did it, but they can’t prove it yet. Wanna know what gave the asschunk away? Apparently he drove the GREEN SUV into a telephone pole 3 miles away. They’re pretty sure it’s the same person. And that GREEN SUV is pretty damn damaged now.

Hah. Karma…she’s a bitch.

PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT: Karma strongly believes in what comes around goes around so if you continue to come around…she will make sure you get your go around…
It’s ladies night tonight.

Ahhhhh. There’s my silver lining.

humpday

Team BITE ME! did not win last night. We were in 2nd place going into the wager of death. We live by the motto “Go big or go home.” We waged big…and went home without winning.

Ah well. Was still fun.

I’m so ready for this week to be over. I feel like I’ve been completely drained. Anyone have an instant cure for my emotional vacancy?

teach your children well…

Parents have a tough job. We have to try to raise smart kids, who can think independently yet they still need to be obedient without being subservient. We don’t want our kids to be pushovers. But we don’t want them to be unruly demons from hell either.

Then we have to address the typical teen stuff. How do you teach your kids about safe sex without having them run off with a box of condoms and a smile?

And we can’t forget manners, attitude, proper diet and exercise, regular education, socialization, HYGIENE…it’s neverending!!

All this is VERY IMPORTANT STUFF. But, it’s not all we have to teach is it? Nope. Not even close.

One of the most important things we can teach our children (especially boys because I think for most girls, this comes naturally…)

HOW TO PLUCK THEIR EYEBROWS.

It is completely unnecessary for boys to have a unibrow. I don’t care how old they are, they don’t need it. We’re not living in caves. We don’t need completely hairy faces to protect us from the elements. I mean, what exactly does a unibrow really protect you from anyway? Brain freeze? I don’t think so.

So please. Parents. Do the world a solid and buy your pubescent son a good pair of tweezers and possibly one of those brow shaping razors.

Your son’s future love life will thank you for it one day.

meet Clementine…

First of all, thanks for your continued patience with my blog glitches. Fishdog is working tirelessly trying to fix what is wrong. It’s a weird glitch but it looks like it’s been fixed…at least for now.

So guess what found me this weekend? A sweet little pregnant cat. Her name is Clementine. And she was most likely dumped in my yard when her other people discovered she was pregnant. Never have understood abandoning teens in a time when they need adults the most…but anyway.


She is very sweet and needy. If I go outside, she’s at my feet. Like a puppy. She and Ruby the Pug are not BFFs yet, but there is hope. She did a full on Ninja move in the yard the other day. Ran full speed like a road runner on her back legs with her paws and claws extended out front. Ruby is not a fan of Clementine the Calico Ninja…but she wants to friends so badly so she doesn’t give it. She just uncurls her little pug tail and approaches the Ninja Cat with proper reverence. Sometimes it works…sometimes it doesn’t.
After the 2nd night with us, Clementine the Calico Ninja saw Ruby sleeping on the top of the sofa. She wanted to check out the snoring dog so she walked right up to her, and put her paw on Ruby’s back for a couple of seconds. Then walked away and slept on the back of the loveseat.
So there’s hope.
The boys and I went to see Iron Man 2 this weekend. Fantastic! Highly recommend it. Very witty and entertaining.
Did you do anything special for Mother’s Day? Like pick up stray pregnant teen kitties who like ninja moves?

leave a message at the BEEEEEEP

Team BITE ME! was victorious again last night in the war of trivia! yippeeeeee!

Today, I’ll be at the 4-H Center at an all-day, company-wide meeting. Try not to be jealous. The good news is, if we survive the day, we’ll be rewarded with a cocktail party afterward.

I love silver linings…don’t you?

everyday should be like yesterday

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Had the best time at the Travs game yesterday…especially since the first baseman for the NWA Naturals had a great ass…made watching the game soooo much more fun. 🙂
Also got some lovely sun. I did apply sunscreen as appropriate, but I apparently missed a spot on my arm near my armpit and it’s bright freaking pink. Good thing I look so good in pink.
This is how I spent the afternoon:

and after the game, the girls and I headed to Cregeen’s Pub and flirted with the young hot waiter, John-with-an-H, had a couple of beers, and chowed down on some yummy appetizers.

Yes, it was a great day. Honestly, if every work day could be like that…well, we’d all want to go to work, wouldn’t we?

Tonight is Triva at Touchdown Sally’s. Last week we came in 3rd place (boo!). maybe we can reclaim our title as awesomest team ever tonight! Oh wait, we’re still awesomest team ever…we just want to be the WINNING (aka #1) awesomest team ever…

take me out to the ballgame

This is where I’ll be on this beautiful Monday…watching baseball, eating hot dogs, and possibly partaking in a fermented beverage or two… all in the name of work! Yes, my dept is taking a mental health day with the Arkansas Travelers baseball team.
After a scary weekend of tornados, hail, and lightning storms, today is gorgeous–and perfect for watching baseball!
Did y’all have a good weekend? Anyone else almost wake up in Oz? I was wearing my ruby slippers just in case.
Happy Monday, y’all!!

soaking it up

This afternoon I’ll be lounging poolside with Birdrunner, soaking up some much needed Vitamin D. A year ago, I was doing the same thing…except I was soaking up Florida Vitamin D…and let’s face it…Vitamin D in Florida is just sooooo much better than the Arkansas Variety. Because there’s an ocean attached to it…and much like bacon–everything’s better with an ocean.

After my Vitamin D infusion, I’ll move on to Vitamin M…for Margarita. (or would that be Vitamin T? hmmmm) Because tonight is Girls Night…and you know how much I love my Thursdays!

What’s going on today? Anything fun?

do you wanna see me smile and sparkle?

Then get me one of these:

Wine Monkey

it combines 2 of my favorite things! Wine and Sock Monkeys!

This is almost as good as a Flamingo Pez Dispenser. Oh wait…it’s actually better because they DON’T MAKE FLAMINGO PEZ DISPENSERS. Dammitalltohell.